Hello everyone. So today I'm writing about accidents. Road accidents to be precise. I want to share with you my thoughts during that moment between life and death. And also, how God always guides and protects our every move, provided you obey Him by listening to your instincts. Because I believe that tiny voice in your head that tells you yes or no when you're about to do something is the voice of your guardian angel sent from God.

I've had four major road accidents in my lifetime and I strongly believe that if I were to die, it wouldn't be because of a road accident. I've survived four and I know by God's grace, I would never experience such again.

The first 3 accidents I had left me with no major injuries at all, just little scratches on my palm and elbow. But the one that scared me the most was in 2012. I was in Benin city to start my final clearance in school and I was on my way to an aunt's house when it happened.

I was very tired after walking from office to office in my faculty building and I just wanted to go home. On getting to the bus stop outside my school, there were no buses, just motorcycles and I didn't have the patience to wait for a bus. The little voice in my head said," wait for 5 more minutes and if you don't see a bus, take a bike" But no, I wanted to get home that instant. I was tired. So I hailed a bike and my journey started. I felt really unsettled and I couldn't hear the little voice in my head anymore. Less than 5 minutes into the journey, the unexpected happened.

The guy riding the bike was trailing closely behind this 14 seater bus that belonged to a popular transport company in Benin. I noticed the driver seemed like he didn't know where he was going because the way he drove suggested he was confused. As I was about to tell my bike guy to give him a little gap, he tried to overtake the bus and the next thing we knew the bus driver also swerved in the same direction.

"Jesus!!!" I screamed. Next thing I was rolling on the express road, I don't know how many times I rolled but I rolled more than thrice. I started seeing the faces of my loved ones flash before me, I remembered all the good times we had and for a second I thought that was the end. I thought I was gone for good. I opened my eyes and expected to see myself on the queue to meet with St Peter at heaven's gate. Instead I was surrounded by onlookers at the sidewalk and for a nanosecond, I didn't know where I was. Then I remembered. I had fallen from a bike and this was an accident.

I sat up, looked around. My bag was wrapped around my arms. I looked at my feet, the right foot of my shoe was missing. I checked my arms, they had bruises. I touched my head, no sign of bleeding. Ok, I'm safe. "Thank you Jesus..." I said this repeatedly and then the onlookers who were very sympathetic began to ask questions. One particular man asked me my name, where I was coming from and going to. I guess he just wanted to make sure I wasn't in shock. The bike guy was terribly injured. As I tried to get up, I felt a sharp pain on my waist and my leg left. I was badly injured this time.

It was a really long day and I spent it in the accident and emergency ward of the University of Benin Teaching Hospital. Believe me, that's the worst place I've been in my life. It was the longest night of my life. My injury was nothing compared to what I saw that night. I was just thanking God for life till I was discharged the next morning.

You see, when that tiny voice in your head speaks to you, just listen. If I had obeyed mine, I probably wouldn't have had that accident. And be on the alert before you enter public transport. If I feel unsettled with the face of the driver or the conductor of a bus, I usually wait for another to pass by. I'm never in a hurry. It's not a guarantee but better safe than sorry.



I've also stopped making use of motorcycles. If I must, I recite Psalm 23 or 91 till I get to my destination. No jokes. Bike accidents are really horrible because there's nothing protecting you. Any slight touch, you're off in the air or rolling on the ground.

So tell me, have you ever been involved in a road accident before? What was your reaction, what were the things that ran through your mind as it happened? Let me know in the comments section below and have a peaceful weekend ahead.

PS: Christmas is almost here o! Yippee!!! I'm still a baby at heart when it comes to Christmas. So much excitement. Its my favorite time of the year asides my birthday. Let the countdown begin! :D

Question and answer time!

1. What is your best blogging experience?

2.  If you could turn back the hands of time for a day, when would it be?

Hmmm, I don't think I would want to do that because with each day comes its own lessons and these lessons/experiences have shaped me into the person I am today.

3.  List three of your talents.

• Writing

• Dancing

• Listening (This is very different from hearing so yes, I consider it a talent. I'm a very good listener :D)

4.  What job on earth do you consider the most difficult?

Sewage cleaning/maintenance has to be the most difficult and terrible job on the surface of this earth. I can't imagine anything worse than it.

5. Which rules you more; your heart or your head?

I'd say both. I have come to a point in my life where I strived to make a balance of both. Although it's not been easy because I tend to be very emotional sometimes. The world needs you to be tough most times so I let my head lead the way when necessary.

6. Jollof rice or Fried rice?

I can never say no to party jollof rice. You know the type cooked with firewood and has the whole smoke thing going on inside.*drooling* lol! But I'm more of a fried rice person. The vegetable mix is just yum! And I'm a pro at cooking it. Some people can testify to that *wink*

7.  You and your partner have just a million Naira and you have your wedding to budget for, how much will go into it without any external financial assistance?

Ugo this one is JAMB question o! Lol! Now that things are difficult in Nigeria based on the economy, one million naira cannot plan a wedding unless its a very small one void of ceremony. That's an in house wedding. Ok, so if its a quiet wedding with less than 100 guests, I think 600k should be enough to plan it. 100k would be kept aside for miscellaneous expenses which leaves us with 300k to flex. Wait! What about my gown?! Ugo, its not enough joor.lol.

8. What is your favorite foreign meal?

Errmmm...spaghetti bolognaise aka spaghetti and corned beef sauce. That's foreign enough abi?

9.  What's your best fashion accessory?

I love jewelry. Necklaces especially. A statement necklace can totally transform an outfit so jewelry it is.

10.  How do you relax?

Movies and music. I enjoy watching romantic comedy and drama. Action and SciFi movies once in a while. Then I love music(cliché much) but I just love to listen to anything that sounds good. It goes beyond the lyrics. Music is pure art to me.

That's it! I hope I answered well. Now it's my turn to nominate 5 blogs and these are my nominees;

Oluchi of DLeona Life

Sarah of Princess Audu

Yanes of Yanikeur 

Flora George of Flora George

Wendee Isaacs of Wendee Isaacs

My questions;

1.  What inspires your blog posts?
2.  What is the title of the last book you read?
3.  What type of camera do you make use of?
4.  Your favorite Bible verse.
5.  Are you an early bird or a night owl?
6.  A day without your phone or a day without makeup.
7.  What has been your greatest achievement so far this year?
8.  Your top ten fashion and style blogs.
9.  What is your dream vacation destination?
10. What are you listening to on repeat lately?

There you have it! Thanks for visiting as always. You're all appreciated.

"Who's your favorite, mum or dad?" Or "Who do you love more, mum or dad?" This was a reoccurring question during my childhood days and I'm pretty sure it's not strange to most of u as well. What was my answer to this question? Well, I always chose my dad. Daddy was my favorite. Yeah, girls and their fathers. I know.lol. I'm not writing this post to praise my parents. I want to point out something important that I grew up to understand.


A child is said to know the difference between good and bad starting from age 7 and I believe it was at this age I chose who my favorite parent was. I realized that my mum was (is) very strict while my dad was (is) very calm and less strict. So gradually, I tilted more to the direction of my dad. My mum was very quick to say no to some of my demands which sometimes were deemed unnecessary, while my dad on the contrary would approve of these demands 80% of the time. But he knew when to draw the line. There were boundaries and I respected them. He was careful not to spoil me.

As I gradually approached my 13th birthday, things changed. My dad joined the "NO train" with my mum. When I would ask for some certain things he would say, "Ask your mummy". Oh, these two are plotting against me now, I thought. Little did I know he wanted me to see that my mum had the best intentions towards me and she wasn't my "enemy" as I had thought then. My teenage years were very tough but a year into my 20s I understood what it was my parents were doing all along.

My dad wanted to make sure there was a balance in my emotions. He wanted me to see the love in my mum's strictness and I eventually did. From all observations parenting is a huge task and if care isn't taken, the home may become divided because children would tend to set up camp with their favorite parent which is quite unhealthy.




So who's my favorite parent now? Well, I have none because I love them equally. I have come to realize that they are actually a unit and they act in unison. They complement each other. To those who were raised by just one parent please appreciate your mum or dad. For the sole fact that they combined the task of both parents, they should be applauded.

Tell me, who was your favorite parent while growing up? Do you still have a favorite or are you like me who has none? Let me know in the comments section below.

Have a fun filled weekend and stay healthy.
xo, Evita.

Last week Thursday I was taking a stroll on my Twitter timeline and "the proposal" was trending. So I wanted to know what it was all about, who proposed and who was being proposed to. I then discovered that a guy actually proposed to his girlfriend on Twitter. Yes. He took a picture of the ring, mentioned his girlfriend and proposed. In case you're not familiar with how Twitter works let me explain a bit further. Here's what happened, he took a picture of the engagement ring, uploaded it and wrote for example, "@evita will you marry me?"(with the picture of the ring attached) I'm sure you can get a vivid description of what I'm talking about now. Ok?

Twitter Nigeria went on a frenzy. Some people were like "awww! How sweet..." While some people were like "Huh?! Are you for real? Proposing on Twitter?..." And of course, some people made fun out of the whole situation.

Here is my own opinion. I'm not here to criticize or pass judgment on anyone because I'm not a perfect being, I'm also human. It's not entirely my business but I think they made it a bit of everyone's business as it was put up on social media for the whole world to see.

First of all, I don't know the kind of relationship they both have. Maybe they met on Twitter but does that mean a marriage proposal should be done via Twitter? Secondly, what's the problem with this generation?*Question for the gods* But really, what is it? The world is a global village, yes but then, are somethings gradually losing their essence?




Maybe I'm being a little bit dramatic or plain old school but here's what I think. That crucial question, "will you marry me?", is only going to be asked once in a lifetime in most cases and I believe it should be a moment to cherish. Its a memory that will forever be embedded in the minds of both individuals and it should be special. Again, am I virtual that I should be proposed to via the internet? I agree, the internet has made life easier for us but I strongly feel some things should be kept away from it like a marriage proposal for example. It seems like we're all caught in this social media craze. Everything we do is now out there for the world to see. Privacy is becoming extinct and it leaves me wondering what legacies we're going to pass on to the next generation. Loads of selfies with selfie sticks and Instagram pictures?

On the other hand, maybe he wanted it to be a public proposal, for the whole world to see. But there are better ways in my opinion to have gone about it. He could have as well proposed to her in front of her office building or at a fuel station.lol. That's public enough right? Or at a mega shopping mall like Shoprite. It feels insulting on my part to ask my hand in marriage via Twitter. But hey, this is just my opinion. After all, proposal is proposal according to one tweet I saw. And its none of our business as far as he proposed, according to another tweet.

So, my lovely people, what do you think about this Twitter proposal? Are we gradually losing ourselves in this thing called Social Media? Or is this all part of evolution and I'm just being a spoil sport, or old school? Please let me know in the comment section below.

Have a blessed week everyone!
xo, Evita.

Hello friends! Hope everyone is in good health and things are going on well with each and every one of you. Is it just me or this month is quickly passing away? I can still remember October 1st clearly. Anyway, I've had this post in my drafts for a while now so I'm ready to share it with you. Before I start, let me just make it clear that I'm not a relationship expert offering relationship advice in the least. I'm just sharing my thoughts with you based on personal experiences and observations.

Love. Countless songs, poems and movies have and will still be made about love. Lives have been lost, some brought into being because of this enormous four letter word. Wars have being fought, families distraught, all because of love. What is it about love?

I'm very sure most of us are in love or know what it means to be loved and to show love. I'm not talking about romance. Hold that thought. I'm talking about pure and undefiled love. Don't mistake lust for love. Sometimes people "fall in love" because there's something to be gained from their partner at the end of the day. Others fall in love with a person's physical attributes. "Oh, he's so handsome! I think I'm in love with him..." No, that's lust or infatuation. Some people claim to love because they feel lonely and just need someone by their side. This is far from love.




So what is this thing called love? In my opinion, pure and undefiled love starts from the family. The moment a mother holds her child in her arms for the first time, that feeling, that is real love because she can do anything to protect and save the life of her child. When parents sacrifice a whole lot to give their children the best education, that's love.

It goes beyond the family. Friendship. There's love in friendship and I don't mean parasitic relationships where one person keeps draining the other. I'm not talking about fairweather friends who are only found when the going is good. I mean friendship that friends can actually go the extra mile for one another. In there is love. Before going into a romantic relationship, there should be love built on the solid foundations of friendship. To me, without being friends with someone I don't see how a healthy and loving relationship can be built. That's my opinion, you may have yours.





Love goes beyond saying "I love you" all the time, whereas your action says otherwise. It goes beyond words. It doesn't mean you shouldn't say it often to loved ones if it is felt within you. It gives a feeling of reassurance and shows your loved ones that you truly care. But this isn't applicable to most Nigerian parents o.lol. My parents have never told me they love me but I know they do. Its obvious in their actions and the way they speak about you to their friends.



So when I read stories of jealous lovers committing suicide or murder because of love, I'm just left wondering if this is actual love or ordinary jealousy or rage. Because the Bible sums it up in 1st Corinthians 13: 1-13 and verses 4-7 says, "Love is patient and kind, it is not jealous or conceited or proud; love is not ill mannered or selfish or irritable, love does not keep a record of wrongs; love is not happy with evil but is happy with the truth. Love never gives up and its faith, hope and patience never fail."(Good News Bible)

That's it, my take on love. So cheers to true friendships and true love. To those searching for true love, may you find it and hold on to it and to those in love, you've found gold, don't let it go.

xo, Evita.

Hey friends. Hope everything has been going on well with you. I know, long time no post. Ok I'm here now so let's gist. I want to rant. Somethings have been bothering me recently and I decided to bring it up here for discussion. So here goes.

During my service year(NYSC), I was a teacher in a Federal government college and I taught a class in the senior secondary school. I got close to a few of my students and I engaged them in some conversations. I asked them some Biology related questions and they said "Aunty we're not offering Biology o! Its only for Science students..." And I was like ,"What?! Who told you that?!" They said it's how the curriculum operates now that Art students don't offer subjects like Biology and Agric anymore, its now strictly for Science students.



Excuse me! So because I'm an Art student, I'm not supposed to know anything about the Sciences and vice versa? What is the Ministry of Education doing? When I was in secondary school, I offered Biology and Agricultural science and Biology was compulsory for all of us, even those in the commercial class. Even if you want to study Law then you won't know your basic body functions and immediate environment? And even if you want to study Medicine then you're not supposed to know a little bit of Literature? How do you become versatile? What is all this? Economics is also optional now. Its no longer compulsory. Haba! Is it just me or does anyone else understand what I'm talking about?

Then JAMB decided to reduce the cut off mark for their examination. *sigh* Are we now encouraging failure? Isn't the Ministry of Education supposed to take measures to increase the standard of education so students can do better at school and come out with better results?

Oh! Then I heard History is about to be scrapped from the curriculum.



Please tell me its a joke. History?! Why don't we value our heritage? Why don't we like to promote our traditions and culture? The typical American is very knowledgeable about their history and they're being taught in school as from elementary school (primary school). What is the problem? I'm just wondering the kind of education our unborn children are going to receive in the nearest future.

Then my 6 year old niece in primary 2 came back from school last week and said they're now making use of biros in their class. Primary 2? Biro? LOL! A child in primary 2 is yet to have a legible and steady handwriting and they're being told to make use of biros? How do they correct mistakes? They start canceling and making rough notes right? How do they improve their handwriting? I didn't use biro till I got to primary 4 and I'm grateful for that. We had time for learning how to write, handwriting class. We also had a textbook/ workbook for it. I started making use of biros in primary 5. In the long run it paid off. I'm not boasting but I have a very legible handwriting and I used to get good comments about it back in secondary school. What is happening to the system of education in Nigeria? Where have we gone wrong?

I pray for my country Nigeria. We're 55 years old as a nation but we still have a long way to go. So many sectors need urgent attention and to me, education is the most important. Like we say, the children are the future leaders of tomorrow.

What are your thoughts on this? What other sectors need urgent attention in our dear country? Please leave your opinions in the comments section below.

God bless Nigeria.